I agree with your article and Darica's observation. I've been tired for a long time of people when you meet them for the first time announcing that they are gay. Like it is the most important thing I need to know about them, nothing else. Last Fourth of July at neighborhood party, the son of a neighbor (last time I'd seen him he was a kid) walked up to me and said "Hi I'm Bob, Will and Betty's son, and I'm gay." Nothing else, not I like ice cream, cake, fireworks, just "I'm gay." Couldn't stop myself, "Hi, I'm Christy and live next door. And I like sex with men too." He was stunned (so was I ;-) ). He asked my why I said that, and I said, "I thought you were asking since it seemed important to tell me who you like to have sex with. You didn't tell me anything about you other than your sexual preference." I think he expected to shock me, or get a funny look, something to "prove" a conservative is a bigot. I now say that to anyone (to women who say they're gay, I say "that's nice, but I prefer sex with men") who feels it the to tell me their sexual preference. In some ways I'm even tired of the reasons, everyone has got one. I understand feeling sorry for these wounded people, but at some point they have to decide to live. Saw a AGT clip of a young black man who was born basically without a body (missing most of a body below the waist). He was dumped in the system because of it. He decided to do something instead of being the victim (if anyone has a reason to feel picked on, this guy has one of the best ones) and didn't want to be confined to a wheelchair. He started working on the body he did have (some of the best shoulders and pecs I've seen!) and learned to do everything with his hands and arms. He has even won some wrestling matches against able bodied guys. He did this without family, or support (at first) from anyone. Maybe I'm just old, but I really don't care who people want to have sex with as long as it isn't little kids or animals.
Well said - thank you! I too am heartbroken for Kristen Stewart. It’s amazing that the focus of so many is on sex and gender - two things that might actually be the least interesting aspects of any person.
I agree with your article and Darica's observation. I've been tired for a long time of people when you meet them for the first time announcing that they are gay. Like it is the most important thing I need to know about them, nothing else. Last Fourth of July at neighborhood party, the son of a neighbor (last time I'd seen him he was a kid) walked up to me and said "Hi I'm Bob, Will and Betty's son, and I'm gay." Nothing else, not I like ice cream, cake, fireworks, just "I'm gay." Couldn't stop myself, "Hi, I'm Christy and live next door. And I like sex with men too." He was stunned (so was I ;-) ). He asked my why I said that, and I said, "I thought you were asking since it seemed important to tell me who you like to have sex with. You didn't tell me anything about you other than your sexual preference." I think he expected to shock me, or get a funny look, something to "prove" a conservative is a bigot. I now say that to anyone (to women who say they're gay, I say "that's nice, but I prefer sex with men") who feels it the to tell me their sexual preference. In some ways I'm even tired of the reasons, everyone has got one. I understand feeling sorry for these wounded people, but at some point they have to decide to live. Saw a AGT clip of a young black man who was born basically without a body (missing most of a body below the waist). He was dumped in the system because of it. He decided to do something instead of being the victim (if anyone has a reason to feel picked on, this guy has one of the best ones) and didn't want to be confined to a wheelchair. He started working on the body he did have (some of the best shoulders and pecs I've seen!) and learned to do everything with his hands and arms. He has even won some wrestling matches against able bodied guys. He did this without family, or support (at first) from anyone. Maybe I'm just old, but I really don't care who people want to have sex with as long as it isn't little kids or animals.
Well said - thank you! I too am heartbroken for Kristen Stewart. It’s amazing that the focus of so many is on sex and gender - two things that might actually be the least interesting aspects of any person.
You articulated exactly what I thought when I saw the photos and read the article. She’s deeply wounded.